Studies Show that Online Daters Tend to Exaggerate in Their Profiles

Recently, we at Kelleher & Associates came across a fascinating study compiled by OKCupid, a popular dating website, that demonstrates just how often online daters tend to embellish on their dating profiles in efforts to score more dates. Here are a few of our favorite survey findings:

The study neglected to cover one of online dating’s biggest dangers: married online daters pretending to be single. As matchmaker, one of our most important duties is to carefully screen each potential match before presenting to the client. At Kelleher & Associates, we interview everyone in our matchmaking network, and verify their basic identity and marital status.

This is a major advantage matchmaking can offer over online dating, where daters are pretty much on their own to decide whether or not other users are trustworthy. Don’t leave something as important as finding a life partner to chance; invest in help from the professional matchmakers at Kelleher & Associates.

Kissing: The Facts

A couple’s first kiss is a magical milestone in any relationship. The first time those lips meet symbolizes passion, furthers intimacy and glimpses into a possible future. For those reasons (and more), that kiss at midnight on New Years’ Eve is a great way to end, and begin, a year.  

In honor of The Kiss, here are some fun facts about locking lips:

• On average, people spend 336 hours of their lives kissing.
• The word “kiss” comes from the Old English word cyssan, which came from the proto-Germanic kussijanan or kuss, which is likes based on the sound kissing can make.
• A light smooch on the cheek uses two muscles, while making out can use up to 34 facial muscles. 
• Common chimpanzees kiss with their mouths open, but not with tongues. However, bonobos, arguably the most intelligent of primates, do kiss with tongues.
• A good kiss triggers the release of the same chemicals in the brain as race car driving, ski-diving or running the 100-yard dash!
• According to studies, kissing on a regular basis can improve circulation, perk up skin, combat tooth decay and cure headaches.
• The average woman kisses 29 men before she is married.
• Men who kiss their girlfriends/wives before going to work tend to earn more than those who don’t.
• The longest kiss in film history, at three minutes and five seconds, was between Jane Wyman and Regis Tommey in the 1941 movie “You’re in the Army Now.”
• Using an “X” to symbolize kiss (as in “XOXO”) dates back Middle Ages. In the late fifth century in Ancient Rome, people who could not read were allowed to use an “X” as their signature. To make it official, they would kiss the X. In time, the “X” would come to mean “kiss.”
• Like fingerprints and snowflakes, no two lip impressions are identical. 
• 66 percent of couples turn their head to the right when kissing.

Love Locale: Rio De Janeiro

For the cold month of December, we at Kelleher & Associates have selected the always warm and lively Rio De Janeiro for our Love Local of the month. This breathtaking South American city offers up beautiful beaches, fun festivals and plenty of cultural attractions. If you’re looking for a balmy escape from those winter temperatures, grab your sweetie and head to Rio.

Romantic Hotel: Copacabana Palace

For an unforgettable stay in Rio, make sure to book a room at the opulent Copacabana Palace. Overlooking the Copacabana Beach, the Copacabana Palace lavishes guests in every imaginable amenity, from well-decorated, sumptuous rooms to world-class spas.

Romantic View: Beach Cabana at the Martin Pescador Boutique Hotel in Buzios

You won’t believe the spectacular ocean views and sunsets you’ll take in while sipping on a Caipirinha at the Martin Pescador’s beach cabana.

Romantic Restaurant: Restaurante Tereze

At Tereze, dine on Mediterranean-inspired dishes such as smoked lamb and fois gras in a peaceful, romantic setting.

Signaling That Second Date

So, you’re on a first date and it’s going great. He’s not only attractive and smart; you two have had a great time talking through dinner. Now that you’re almost done with your entree, you’ve decided you’d definitely like to see more of him. But how do you signal to him that you’d like to go out on a second date?

As your matchmaker and relationship advisor, we at Kelleher & Associates hold that the best way to get that second date is to be direct and say, “I’ve had a great time and I’d like to do this again soon.” But we understand that being that straightforward isn’t for everyone. If you prefer a more subtle approach, you can gently indicate your interest in seeing him again with these understated signals:

Give him the eye. Give him that tantalizing feeling of being watched by looking into his eyes, holding his gaze just long enough for him to notice, and then looking away.

Face him. Moving your hair away from your face subtly signals your interest to your potential suitor. Try tossing your hair briskly from side to side, pushing your hair behind your ears or softly sweeping your bangs to one side of your forehead.

Think ahead. Get him thinking about “what’s next” by making statements that mention the two of you doing something together sometime in the future. This can be as subtle as “we would have a great time at that Thai place” to more straightforward like “I’d love to take you on a short hike.”

If he’s interested, chances are that pick up on these signals because he’s looking for signs that you’re interested as well.