Signaling That Second Date

So, you’re on a first date and it’s going great. He’s not only attractive and smart; you two have had a great time talking through dinner. Now that you’re almost done with your entree, you’ve decided you’d definitely like to see more of him. But how do you signal to him that you’d like to go out on a second date?

As your matchmaker and relationship advisor, we at Kelleher & Associates hold that the best way to get that second date is to be direct and say, “I’ve had a great time and I’d like to do this again soon.” But we understand that being that straightforward isn’t for everyone. If you prefer a more subtle approach, you can gently indicate your interest in seeing him again with these understated signals:

Give him the eye. Give him that tantalizing feeling of being watched by looking into his eyes, holding his gaze just long enough for him to notice, and then looking away.

Face him. Moving your hair away from your face subtly signals your interest to your potential suitor. Try tossing your hair briskly from side to side, pushing your hair behind your ears or softly sweeping your bangs to one side of your forehead.

Think ahead. Get him thinking about “what’s next” by making statements that mention the two of you doing something together sometime in the future. This can be as subtle as “we would have a great time at that Thai place” to more straightforward like “I’d love to take you on a short hike.”

If he’s interested, chances are that pick up on these signals because he’s looking for signs that you’re interested as well.